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Shashayla

I'm thinking that men and women (generally) feel differently about this.


I am an avid Carcassonne player...I love the game....it makes me think, but it is not too hard, I find it relaxing...I just enjoy it. I'm rated in the top 10 of rated players, but my win/lose ratio is not too much better than 50/50. I am not a very agressive player unless I get mad and think my opponent is a total jerk.  I like to win, but I enjoy playing whether I win or lose. After playing a game of this type as often as I do, you get to know the other players. So when I  play against an unfamiliar tag, I often give them the benefit of the doubt, expecially if they appear hesitant and new.  Even when I play frequent opponents, I will block to add difficulty to their progress, but I usually don't block so their pieces are permanently disabled; I'd rather outwith them than cripple them. I guess I'm a wimp. 


I've had (in my opinion) jerks ask me why I bother if I lose so much, tell me I'm terrible, ask me why don't I give it up, I'm obviously not learning anything, etc, etc. For me it is not only about winning.  It is the socialization, it is a passtime; I don't think I've ever won a game of Monopoly in my life, but I still like playing with my kids. I guess what I'm saying is, there is more to playing Carcassonne for me than just winning,,,,and the same goes for most other games I play. I certainly don't win most shooters, but it is still fun, and i'm not going to stop playing!

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Guardian·
Winning isn't everything to me, but I like to come in at least middle of the road. When it comes to Carcassonne, I'm a total ass. I mean in gameplay, not talking smack. I will cripple my opponent in a second and not think twice about it. I play cut-throat and expect anyone I'm playing with to do the same. However, I will also strike deals and do favors for others in return for something I want. \r \r I have to say, though, I'm speaking of the board game, not the XBLA version. I've played single player, but never online. It's just not as easy as having all the tiles in front of you. I overlook way too much.\r \r I also have to add that it is not a man/woman thing. My wife's aunt is the meanest, most cut-throat player I've ever met. She's even worse than me. Even in co-op games like Arkham Horror and Runebound. She's played competitively for so long, you have to remind her we're all a team.
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FireWtr96·
winning truely isnt everything. You need losses to learn from to win the next time. Unfortunately it seems that there are alot of people that dont know how to win or lose. alot of times they didnt/dont ( i say didnt because there are adults out there that act like that too)play sports and never learned how to win/lose with grace. I'll admit i am an ass at times too but it is generally thrown at me first. I did a web search the game sounds fun i may have to try it out :) good luck
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BasBleu·
It's a good thing winning is not everything to me....I have adjusted my attitude out of necessity. I just want to have fun. I am not competitive and become uncomfortable when confronted! A sissy gamer, really.
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LilGideon·
Gamer rage comes from frustrated people, bullies, basically. I'm glad to see the 2o2p community treat people better than we're generally treated.
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Shashayla·
Anyone who wants to play...anytime! send me a FR...I'll go easy on ya!
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doorgunnerjgs·
If I were as good as you can apparently be, I would challenge the \"mouths\" to another couple of round where you don't hold back if that is what you had done with them. Then if you can whip their backsides, explain the reasons that you play the way you do.
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Shashayla·
Good thinking doorgunner! I usually just go on to the next match and try not to let it bother me. There is a certain amount of luck, too...sometimes the piece fall your way, and sometimes they don't.
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pp2·
I don't understand that mentality either. I like to win now and then, it kind of makes it seem like there's a point. But I don't have to win all the time, and losing is easily handled when there was a good time had in the process.\r \r On the other hand, losing ALL the time can grow old quickly. At least for me. But then I guess it comes down to why you play, and it sounds like you know exactly why you play...to have fun.