My Wife...

SoupNazzi

Shared on Tue, 02/12/2008 - 13:52
...the social worker.

I think that's her job whether she is actually working in that field or not.

See, before she even got out of college, she worked various jobs dealing directly with social work.  One job was the creation of a Domestic Violence non-profit organization in our town to help with the placement of battered women into various secret shelters.

Job #2 was working for an agency to help with the placement of children who are taken from their families by the courts.

Once she graduated, she went to work for the state for child protective services.  That job totally sucked, and once I was hired, and we moved down here, we both agreed that she'd never work that particular job again.

A few years after our daughter was born, she returned to work, and one of the various jobs she worked was for an adoption agency...  Basically placing children of women who couldn't or didn't want them with families that did.  That job didn't end well, and now my wife teaches private kindergarten.

In college, my wife met quite a few women, as she was a Resident Advisor for the dorm she lived in.  One of these particular women, who'll I'll just call "G" took a particular attachment to my wife.  To the point where she'd come into my wife's room and sleep on her floor at night... a lot.

"G" was emotionally unbalanced.  She'd been adopted, and then sexually abused by her adopted father.  Said father of course played the "holier then though card" and somehow used religion as a shield.  Her mother also supported adoptive dad feeling that since he was such a religious man, that he couldn't possibly have done the things that "G" told her.

Anyways, during this time, my wife and I were dating.  It got to the point that I envisioned a Single White Female scenario.  "G" seemed that unbalanced and attached to my wife.  But, my wife and her both graduated, and "G" went onto graduate school and while there received some serious and deep personal counseling.  So much so that I wasn't afraid that she was going to kill me anymore...  j/k.

"G" is much more balanced now, and we've basically have adopted her into our family and she is Auntie "G" to our daughter.

"L" is my wife's newest social case.  They met and became friends while working together at a day-care center.  We always knew that "L" had issues.  She was abrasive, manipulative, and various other indicators that she was somewhat unbalanced.

Just recently, "L" related to my wife that she had also been adopted, and then sexually abused by her adoptive father... to the point where he got her pregnant (and she had to have an abortion).  L's mom basically took her husband's side and basically said "Well I just see a different side of him."

Now, "L" has two daughters, and she and her husband have decided to not allow their children to interact with him unless supervised.  This didn't go off well with douchebag dad.  He made threats basically saying that they couldn't keep him from seeing his grand children.  So they are cutting off all contact with him.

They'll be filing a restraining order against him here soon, and the straw that may break the camel's back will be "L"s brother and his wife will also be cutting off all contact with douchebag dad as well.

"L" and her husband are so afraid, that they have both purchased guns and are getting their CCP (Carried Concealed Permit).  I'll be helping them learn how to shoot, with some basics from the Marine Corps (I qualified expert 2 times with the pistol), such as the Weaver Stance, clear front sight tip, squeeze the trigger, aim for center mass, how to clear various jams, etc...  I'm going to recommend that they focus on shooting human silhouette to start out with since the basic ten ring target really isn't why they are learning to shoot.

Anyways, my wife just seems to attract these women to her (I won't even go into the former stripper who's now doing porno movies).  These aren't the only ones who have spoken to her, just (2) of the most extreme.  Not sure if it's because she is a very empathetic person, or it's just fate that puts them in her life.  But she's always treating them as friends, but at the same time, she subtly slips into the role of social worker and counsels them on courses of action that could improve their lives.

So I guess I have this to look forward to the rest of my life.  My wife doing the job as a social worker, whether she gets paid to do it or not.

Comments

aimzb's picture
Submitted by aimzb on Thu, 02/14/2008 - 15:43
Kudos to your wife, Soup. And by the way, it is a calling. She'll be doing it her entire life. Take it from another social worker. I tried to get out of this line of work 5 years ago. You just can't get away from it.
JUSTKILLME2's picture
Submitted by JUSTKILLME2 on Tue, 02/12/2008 - 14:06
It sounds like you have a good women You are a good man for letting and supporting her. she needs and deaserves it remember every person she help's is hopeful one less preson to carry it on in there life there are way too many pepole who just turn and look the other way the ( I do not want to get involved thing) well somtimes you have to get involved in order to sleep a night it is not easy to do the right thing or fun it might really suck but in the end it will always be right
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Submitted by CapnHun on Tue, 02/12/2008 - 14:27
Molestation is much more common than most people realize and the effects on people, as it sounds like you have already seen, are long term and can make people seem pretty unstable. To compound the problem, offenders almost always deny it and turn it around so that the victim is the problem. I have no empathy for wimpy women who stand up for their men essentially aiding and abetting in the situation. Double standard or no, if we don't get the message out to the offenders that this behavior will not be tolerated, they will continue not only to do it but push for our society to accept it.
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Submitted by WallyBR on Tue, 02/12/2008 - 15:13
I agree - you've got a great woman there.

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