Day Care Frustration - Need Advice

sjam613

Shared on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 14:44
It's a common thing for a lot of us here who are parents.  Both parents work and you are forced to send your child to daycare each day.  The daycare we use is part of our church (though the church doesn't run it) and it seemed like the perfect fit for my daughter.

As my daughter has gotten older (now a 3 1/2 year old) she doesn't really require naps anymore.  There is the occasional time where she gets a little overtired by the end of the day, but it is few and far between.  Unfortunately, our daycare requires kids to lay in their respective cots for a minimum of 2 hours per day.

Now overall (and not trying to be biased) my daughter is very well behaved and not a hell raiser at all.  But when you force a kid that doesn't need the rest time to lay there quietly for 2 hours you are asking for trouble.  At 34 years old I know how hard it would be for me let alone a little kid. 

I have mentioned to daycare that perhaps all kids don't need that kind of time and was told it was a state requirement.  I am a person that will do research on things and decided to contact the state of CT to confirm.  Well amazingly, it is not a requirement for all kids to lay quietly.  It is a requirement however, that there is a quiet area available for children.  Since this daycare brings revenue in to my church I am not trying to start waves and get the state involved but it sounds to me that it is a requirement for kids to lay down so the teachers can sit around and do nothing for 2 hours.

I will admit that my daughter is not an angel at all times but am at a crossroads with this.  While I am one who does not let her get away with inappropriate behavior, it is hard to discipline a child for not laying quiet for 2 hours.  I certainly understand that along the path of her growth there will be times when I disagree with a policy or have issues with a teacher, but this just seems crazy to me.

So I sit here asking for any of my family here at 2o2p to help me out here with some advice.  It seems that daycare teachers sometimes forget that they are watching kids and not adults.  Sorry for the rant, and thank you in advance for any help.

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DaddyFatSack_25's picture
Submitted by DaddyFatSack_25 on Tue, 02/06/2007 - 08:46
Get a homeless person to sit them, they are free most of the day
Outsider8178's picture
Submitted by Outsider8178 on Wed, 02/07/2007 - 08:38
You just have to balance how much you like the daycare versus this issue. I really like everything about my son's daycare and it is affiliated with a church. There are some things that I don't care for, but I let it slide because: 1) I like the place and it has been great for my son and 2) the things I disagree with don't pose any physical/mental harm to my kid.
HeReCoMeSdAbOoM's picture
Submitted by HeReCoMeSdAbOoM on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 14:53
While my wife and I tend to do the handoff instread of daycare, I feel you should research other options. Many daycares have different philosophies and you may be using a lazy one right now. I'm sure you can find other ways to contribute to your church but our kids come first and you want her to enjoy her time away from you. I'm dreading the day I have to leave my son @ daycare but it will come and I can only hope his time spent away from my wife and I is fun. Any establishment that says "thats the rule deal with it" should revisit their business goal. bOOm
sjam613's picture
Submitted by sjam613 on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 15:05
Thanks. While we are going to look around, it is nice that there are people who work at the church that can be our eyes and ears from time to time.
UnwashedMass's picture
Submitted by UnwashedMass on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 15:32
How about a Gameboy and headphones? :) j/k, getting a 3.5 y.o. to do anything for 2 hours is tough and an unrealistic goal. Maybe suggest to the daycare manager that they set up an older kid's room that will keep them away from the little nappers? I'm with Boom-they need to revisit the bus. plan. Good Luck!
ElmanJo's picture
Submitted by ElmanJo on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 16:07
We bring our daughter to a Mulberry Day Care (Kindercare just merged so they are presently changing over). She is 2.5 and I believe around 3 she will "graduate" from toddlers to preschool where they don't take naps (but may have down time) and are "mostly" potty trained. Does your day care seperate the kids by age like this? A larger day care may provide activities more suited to the age. Figure in another 8 months is Pre-K, which is prob. a half day. Another headache.

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