Why is that cute girl kissing that bald guy?

CMA

Shared on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 09:15
Dedicated to Wally.

One of my favorite quotes from marriage counseling situations is as follows.  "I just don't love my wife anymore" counselor says "Well, go home and love her."

My wife and I are so different sometimes it is a wonder we get along at all.  For example.

She had the second highest GPA in her high school class.
I went to summer school every year, but one. Then night school along with day school just to graduate on time.

She graduated magna cum laude from College
I begged for professors to allow me to turn in late work so I could graduate at all.

She listens to loves songs and girl rock.
I listen to alternative rock and blues.

She comes from a family where they talk to each other.
I come from a family where I wonder where they are.

She will grew up in the artic cold (ohio)
I grew up in south Florida and north Georgia

She likes to take long walks
I like to play video games all night

There are so many things about our very person that are different.  It amazes me that we can live with each other.  Before anyone says opposites attract, I will tell you I disagree.  Opposites collide.  Opposites tend to hurt each other in my experience because they don't understand each other.  It is not our differences that make us love each other though we do enjoy laughing at how weird we think each other are.  It is the fact that when I (or her) wake up in the morning and look at the other we make a decision.  I look at her and tell myself despite how my emotions or wants feel  I am going to love her today.  I am going to do the things she wants me to do.  I am going to sacrifice my own wants and I am going to love her. 

This is our perspective on marriage.  This is our perspective on love (isn't that fairy tale like).  Sometimes we screw up, fall off track, and totally piss each other off, but we talk argue and get ourselves back to that concept.   So in answer to Wally's question about the pic, she made a decision to be my wife.  Now she is stuck with me forever and we are going to make the most of it.   It may not be a Hollywood or Cinderella love story, but I wouldn't want anything different. 

Comments

Captiosus's picture
Submitted by Captiosus on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 10:15
Well written CMA. "Sometimes we screw up, fall off track, and totally piss each other off, but we talk argue and get ourselves back to that concept." This line is something that should be told to everyone before they get married because I think this is entirely true. My wife and I have days where we're so pissed at each other we don't want to be in the same room, but then we argue for a bit and everything is back to normal. So far, two of my local friends have been married and divorced within two years because they expected marriage to be wonderful 100% of the time and failed to understand that love changes and compromise is a must.
OldManRiver48's picture
Submitted by OldManRiver48 on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 10:16
Nice blog man. :)
Stryker927's picture
Submitted by Stryker927 on Wed, 09/26/2007 - 11:34
Right on man, right on! :) It's a daily decision. A daily investment. And the rewards that are reaped are unmeasurable.
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Submitted by gigatrix on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 09:27
I actually do think opposites attract for the most part.. that's not to say that two people who are polar opposites will workout in a relationship or even marriage. I'm typically attracted to women way out of my league. Would I date any of them given the chance? Of course.. but would I marry any of them, could I see them sitting down to play a game with me and enjoy it, much less tolerating my gaming habits? Hardly.. you have to have someone who sees you for you, and respects your lifestyle (as long as it's positive). and I love your ideals on marriage, it's the way I've always felt about it yet can't seem to find anyone who feels the same way. I'm glad you found an attractive woman who, even during hard times is willing to work it out and continue to love one another.
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Submitted by doorgunnerjgs on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 09:35
I hear ya! For my take on this, see my last blog: [url]http://www.2old2play.com/Blog/Comments/2403/14882[/url]
WallyBR's picture
Submitted by WallyBR on Thu, 09/20/2007 - 09:59
Hey look, I'm famous! :) Great stuff, CMA. Reading that brings to mind many of the similarities my wife and I have to you and your wife. My wife graduated Magna Cum Laude from college - I had to stick around another semester because I failed a Senior level engineering course and had to retake it. My wife listens to country and Christian rock - I listen to electronica. My wife is training for a half-marathon (her 2nd in 2 years) - I am preparing for a marathon Halo 3 gaming session. :) We're different in so many ways, but there are also so many ways that we are alike too. Marriage is all about compromise. We both read the book "The 5 Love Languages" this summer and it's been amazing to see how each of us shows love and wants to be loved. I'd recommend it to anyone anywhere. If you want to, that book can change your life. Anyway, thanks for the shout-out CMA. I just hope I stay on your good side - I know that once H3 comes out I don't want an angry CMA hunting me down. Gulp.

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