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Automan21k

Shared on Tue, 06/29/2010 - 12:11

Since the intention of my last post was misconstrued, lets try this again.....

 

I work with people who will openly state that they had kids because it was a popular thing to do at the time. They treat their kids like crap, the kids only get toys after mommy has fulfilled her weekly need for new shoes. The kids look up to their potential fathers, a majority of whom are in and out of jail, never getting jobs, and the kids think that is the best thing ever!  

 

One co-worker had kids because it would be like having a living doll to dress up. The kid is named after a brand of alcohol and will tell you as much. Once the kid grew past the dress up age, it was like she went from being the best thing ever to a total burden who cost her mom everything. 
 
None of these kids have a positive male role model, and if they would ask if I would spend time with their kids to give them a role model.... Sure, no problem, I would have no problem signing up for the big brothers program, teaching them that there is a better world out there and helping them to find a way to reach it. But I get exposed to these kids with instructions not to discuss anything political, nothing about finding a way to go to college because “that shits expensive”  Not to talk about anything that would have the kids wanting anything that would cost money because mom’s priorities come first.  But she told me a few of the commands to make them “do tricks” if I just spend time with their kids then I will want kids of my own.
 
 
She didn't want kids, she wanted a puppy that looked like a kid.
 
I have been back and forth on the idea of having kids. I want to face the task of proving to people that raising a kid is supposed to be a challenge, a blessing, a joy of life, and not a burden that you are stuck with after they get to a certain age. 
 
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Comments

drksoul426's picture
Submitted by drksoul426 on Tue, 07/13/2010 - 10:38
That is why most people shouldnt have kids these days. I myself have been on the fence about the kid issue. I would love to have a kid but I would be an asshole about it in that my kid would be smart and cultured etc etc. But after really thinking about it I really dont want the responsibility of a child. I'm a bit selfish as well, I dont want to give up things I enjoy doing for a kid. Nice 357 btw. Does it kick much?? I have a ruger superblackhawk 44mag but havent gotten a chance to shoot it yet.
alabama_old_fart's picture
Submitted by alabama_old_fart on Tue, 06/29/2010 - 19:00
Raising a child is all of that, mixed in with thoughts of burdens. Son is 17, daughter is 14 and both are sources of great pride and joy. They are also the subject of resentment in darker moments.
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Submitted by Fish66 on Tue, 06/29/2010 - 20:07
Hey Auto, I didn't catch the post, I guess you took it down. I do remember this topic coming up a while ago and I remember it winding up with basically; Kid are a great Responsibility with many trials and expensive as well as the greatest source of love and pride known to Man, IF you TRULY WANT them. The people that don't want children and don't have them should be respected as much (If not more) then the people that have them and step up to every aspect of being a parent (Making a child doesn't mean you are a Parent) That was (is) my basic opinion on the subject and what I recall from before, but again, I didn't catch the last post. And as an active father of three, I was left with a certain respect for you last time, so I can't imagine why there might be fuss now.

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