Anti-social habits still going strong.

Automan21k

Shared on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 13:02

I know some people would blame Warcraft, mood swings, or whatever, but I find myself retreating to my anti-social ways again. At work there are only 3 people I can talk to without getting severely annoyed, I take the long way around the office just to avoid people, I find myself wanting to take the 9 floors of stairs just to avoid being in an elevator with someone else. Any unavoidable conversations I get into with people results in my vocabulary being reduced to yeah (meaning yes), whatever (meaning no) and sure (meaning just go away I don’t want to talk to you). I can’t help but see other people as being dirty, things to be avoided for the sake of my own health, which might explain why I find it so much easier to talk to screen names anf clusters of pixels over the internet...

 
Yes, I have social anxiety, I normally keep it in check, but sometimes it just gets to be too much. Normally there is a trigger (politics, someone trying to call me out on some topic, my job in general), some event that pushes me over the edge, causes me to lose touch with the world and want to do anything to avoid any social contact. It normally starts with getting sick, not legitimately fever or flu-like sick, but sick to my stomach, dizzy, headaches ect, a very short temper, minor masochism, and a slightly sadistic side also surface. I have talked with a shrink about it before with them trying to put me on every drug in their stock portfolio and the suggestion that I try to be around people more. (really? let me just drop you from a plane to get you over your fear of heights….)
 
Normally I can manage it, people never know I have these issues. I simply ask myself what a normal person would do and simply do it without thought. That has gotten me through meetings, crowded elevators, even public speaking engagements. But lately it just doesn’t seem like enough, my anxiety has been leaking through. I’ve been having a lot more trouble being around people. (not counting my wife, she’s about the only person I can stand to be around anymore.)
 
Maybe it is the frustrations of work weakening my resolve, maybe it is the odd, renewed devotion to incompetence that my coworkers have exhibited, either way I have been feeling the need to get away. Part of my thinks a new job would help, (one with less people around), part thinks I just need a long vacation, part of me wants to go back to college and expand my focus into an area where I wouldn’t have to deal with as many people as I do. When I was younger and I had these issues I would throw together a bare basics pack and go rough it for a week. Since the 40 square mile stretch where I use to go is now a US National Guard artillery range I don’t think that’s much of an option.
 
I never like to ask for help, but I can’t believe I’m the only one here with this issue(the anxiety issue, not the national guard blasting the taco sauce out of your old stomping grounds). How do you deal with it?
 
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AvastYeBilgeRat's picture
Submitted by AvastYeBilgeRat on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 09:40
I have some employees who work for me and are also socially anxious. I tell them to work on it because it honestly does affect their ability to perform in a team environment on the things we support. I know WoW likely isn't the origin, but I think you'd be surprised at exactly how much it contributes. I've been there too - something happens on a subconcious level that makes real-life interaction and relationships not as attractive as booting up WoW and living and interacting in Azeroth (or Outland, Northrend, wherever you are). I cancelled my WoW sub earlier this year and my work life - including interactions with colleagues - improved. Hard to believe, but it's true. I'd say give WoW a break for a week and see if that improves things at all. If you're not into trying that, take baby steps. You can still take the stairs at first, but but force yourself to interact with 1-2 people a day. Make a list of things to do: greet them in the morning, talk to them about one thing you might have in common through the course of the day, ask them about something, whatever. For what it's worth, I'm a manager and I still have days when I want to be totally introverted and alone. Personality is part of it. You just have to get comfortable with interacting when you have to. Just my $0.02.
NoGame22's picture
Submitted by NoGame22 on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 14:05
WoW is completely the problem.
mnvikesfan's picture
Submitted by mnvikesfan on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 14:17
quit wow and come back to reality. WoW is the devil
Automan21k's picture
Submitted by Automan21k on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 14:32
and when was the last time you two got your Halo Reach fix? just because I haven't turned on my Xbox (with exception to watching the new Bioshock game play trailer) in a few weeks doesn't mean I have a WoW addiction. and just because I have to cut this comment short because my Auction House Remote is beeping at me doesn't mean anything eaither.....
ImMrPete's picture
Submitted by ImMrPete on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 16:14
I had a WoW addiction and I suffer from many of the problems that you do. I go out of my way to try to avoid people and conversations. When someone comes up to me and start talking I totally lock up. Was it WoW that did this to me? I'm not totally convinced. I was always moody and aloof . Just never to the point that it is now. Lately I've been forcing myself to be social. It's just hard. The weird thing is that I can easily communicate via text. I'm just unable to talk to people.
ATC_1982's picture
Submitted by ATC_1982 on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 18:04
I continue to talk to people I trust ..

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